Finally have the internet back again!!!

So sorry about the delay in writing but my internet was playing up and when I went over to the library to update for some reason they had blocked blogger.com. But X has given me a PAYG internet dongle with £500 loaded so that should keep me going for a bit.

Ok so X well I have been on a date with him since I last wrote and a lot of our issues were resolved especially over what he did for us to break up. I told him how I felt and to be fair the man held his hands up, and said I fucked up, and was trying to act like the big man! Are we back together no, do I get an allowance from him no, but I have told him I will think about it, with some rules in place.

I wont move back to London - I got too wrapped up in his world, and with my grandfather dying in July its made me realise I dont want to, nor can i be away from my family at the moment!

It wont be a case of me dropping everything for him -  I have built up a new life for myself again and wont be running to him on his demand.

As before there are to be no others - of course there is still the wife, but if I was to hear about another SB we would be done.

And finally the money I gave back to him, when our relationship ended I want back this may seem weird but I gave that back in anger and this time I wouldnt be doing something as dumb as that!

And he has agreed to those points and put some off his own in, but his I will keep to myself, as they are more personal to him and people who knew him or his circle would know who I was talking about.

But still something holds me back back I have told him I will give him a decision by the end of the month. But in the mean time he has sent me another present a lovely pair of Louboutins will add a picture for you they are just a standard pair but they will help me when I am going on my job interviews, yes that will also be something thats different I will be working I will not depend on a man  again and to be honest I think I would be bored going back completly to my old life but we will se what happens.

Love

Jess
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All set for the search

Ok so I have just re-done my profile on SA.com as finding that I have no luck on there at the moment, none of my emails get replies and dont tend to get emails on there. I find my best luck in on SD.com and woke up to 6 emails this morning but can't say I liked one of them. Maybe I am just getting too fussy LOL!

I have been chatting with a few guys on SD.com but I am bored of coming across profiles that state I am not looking for an arrangement or to give an allowance, then I am sorry sweetie but what are you doing on a sugar daddy dating website!! OOh it makes me so anygry and I am hoping that if I do finally find a sugar daddy that they will fund my website so us girls dont waste our time with fakes, and the guys don't waste their time with girls who never want to meet.

I think I will do a 3 strikes and your out option if you say you'll meet and dont after 3 times your off the website that will make it so much easier for both sides then. I know I have been guilty of it myself where you say you would like to meet up with someone but then get chatting to a better prospect and forget about the other one. But I amtalking about the girls who continusally do it.

Well my little rant over, now if anyone fancies helping me out on my profile let me know hehehe!


Love

Jess
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Hello

So am you guys will see I have been away from the SD for quite a while, I had some stuff going on that needed to be sorted before I could fully look at going into this lifestyle again. I actually dated a regular guy for a while as well, only 3 months but it didnt work out.

He was a great guy but his ex was a psycho and I didn't need to deal with that. So whilst I have been away I haven't logged into SD.com or SA so am now working my way through all the emails to see if any good pots and of course I am gonna work my way through all the blogs I follow to try to catch up and see if anyone has done it and found a great SD.

So whilst I wish you all luck in your search I hope you will all wish me luck too.

Lets ride together in this bumpy world of SD dating

Love

Jess
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New pots

Firstly thanks everyone for your well wishes, no I dont know who the girls are, and yes the police are invovlved they are looking at CCTV so see if they can find the incident.

Now on to the good stuff girls, I have a new pot and when I say he is googable damn is this man googable. I only typed in his first name and 100's of entries came up about him including his society wedding and then divorce. He is early 40's which is good and him and his family actually own the company he works for!!! kerchiiing!

He did ask me to meet him where he is now, but well me and flying to meet guys for the first trip it just doesn't happen. For a first meet I am happy to go to them if it's still in this country and I have a hotel booking made and transport to and from paid for by them, or they can come to my home town by no I wont go out of this country.

Now back to my Pot, I'll call him Mr Public, I have entered in his email address and this site came up with a load of email address for bad SD's and all someone had written was is married!!! I am sorry girls but this is sugar daddy land most of them are!

So anyway thats my news ladies

Love

Jess
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Me and X

Well to stop all the debate no I would never ever get back with X to put me in a situation which to one of his clients makes me seem like a whore, thats doesn't sit well with me. Firstly we had been together for years so it wasn't like it was something new where he didn't know what my reaction would be, secondly he was the one who asked when we first started dating that I dont date other guys, which to be honest I wouldn't have anyway. We started this relationship as more of a mistress rather than a SB and just because I was his SB does not in any way mean he can degrade or belittle me.

If anyone was too except that just because they are a SB then me personally I think you are a fool, and you need to work on your self worth before you get into a SD relationship. No man whether he is buying you things or not should put you in the position X put me in. As for him emailing me, yes he emails me every day but no he never gets a reply and if he ever wants to know my thoughts on him he knows this blog address I am quite happy for him to read.

Ladies to suggest that I should accept this mistake because it isnt a normal relationship, I think if you would be willing to accept it you are selling yourself short, regardless of the type of relationship you are having, you SD should respect you regardless of the size of allowance you have.

I am loving the debate though ladies and this is just my thoughts on so please no one take offence but remember ladies, we are LADIES not whores, and just because a guy buys us things doesn't mean that he shouldn't respect you in the same way he respects any other woman.

If he wants to treat you like a whore treat him like a john I guarantee he wouldn't like it or accept it and neither should you.

The way I sum this up is if you had a BF who bought you some clothes or a piece of jewellery could he then offer you around to his friends, no this isn't the same type of relationship, but RESPECT is something all relationships should be built on whether it is a SD or BF relationship.

Remember debate is always healthy though :)

Love

Jess

xoxox

Let the search begin

Well as heartless as this seems I am getting back on the horse and gonna find myself another SD bu this time I wont be lookin for love just a SD!

Ok so lots of people have been asking what happened, basically X offered me to one of his clients to help his deal along, he has never done anything like that before and I was shocked when he did suggest it. I have never felt so cheap in my life and due to that I wanted no ties in my life to him.

Now I look back on I wish I hadn't given the money and possessions back but at the time I had to do it. But at least I have no debt and I have my family that I can move back in with. I just told them I had lost my job due to recession and also that me and X had split up.

So this blog will take a new direction about my search to get my lifestyle back, I knwo I probably wont get the same amount but I am looking in the reigon of £3-£5k so keep your fingers crossed for me, unfortuantely I dont live in a big city so that makes it harder but hey ho the search will begin

Love

Jess Bunny
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First date jitters

So I went shopping today with one of my non SB girlfriends who cam to London for the day to see me, she has a first date with a guy next week and it got me thinking about maybe writing a blog about what you could expect on your first date, what to wear.

So by now if it's your first date you should have spoken about the financial side of things for 2 reasons. Firstly what's the point of meeting if your expectations of this relationship aren't the same and secondly it's easier to do it over email than face-to-face. You can be bolder and if you disagree with what he is offering it's easier to be polite and say "thank you but we are not on the same level" than it is to do it to his face. Imagine if you are looking for a £6k allowance and he is only looking to spend £1k or under. Also some men are just looking for occasional dates when he has company stuff on, or when he needs to get away from the wife others want like me and X have a full time relationship.

Your emails should help you figure out the ins and out s of the relationship, obviously not how may times you have sex, what positions, but how often you want to see each other, who is going to travel to who, that kind of thing.

Now if you work and it is a dinner date try to get the day of and the day after off, the day of so you can get ready and take your time and the day after not so you can stay over with him just so you can have a think about how it went, if you could see your self with him, this is a important decision and you want to let him know ASAP otherwise he may just move on, obviously you don't have to have the day after but try to get the day of the date.

Don't have a facial the day of the date, or for 3 days before it will bring out any impurities and leave you with bad skin for your date, not great!! You should have had a spray tan the night before so you just need to jump in the shower mid afternoon to get rid of the layer colour, I always leave it till the afternoon as you get a nicer colour and always have it done by someone, don't do it your self, you know it will go wrong!! Give yourself a mani and pedi, go for a nice neutral colour, obviously wash you your hair and style it once you have had your shower.

What to wear? Whilst I was shopping today I saw some lovely Black jeans around I go for DVB jeans but there are just as good ones in River Island, New Look or Topshop. The just a nice smart top, you want to be saying with your outfit, yeah I maybe going some place posh but so what I 'll dress to my style and jeans and a top can never go wrong. And the good things with black jeans is they can be mistaken for black trousers anyway so they look smart. Don't dress like you would for a job interview for a start he has to prove himself to you, not the other way round. Go for the no make up look on the face bright eyes and glossy lips. Look to make sure it applied well, no orange line if you can buy some sponges or as I use a Benefit foundation brush, you can't go wrong with one of these. Oh and lastly don't overpower him with perfume, just go light with it and put it on your pulse points.

OK so on your date, I'll go back to my experiences before X I only took enough cash for my taxi fair there and home, always meet in a bar before you go to the restaurant do you want to be stuck eating with a man who bores you to death no! Trust me it drags for hours and hours. This isn't a normal date don't offer to pay for the drinks he wants to be your SD this is what he should be doing, that is also why the bar is a good idea. Always have a friend ring you after half an hour make sure everything is ok and of course if it's not you can make a runner stating a dying dog :)

Never, Never go to bed with them on the first date, for a start no Sugar Daddy wants to think that as soon as his back is turned that his SB is going with other guys even if you have agreed you will see other people, keep him wanting more, it's classier and men will have more respect of you. Yes this relationship gets rid of the crap of waiting 5 dates and then sleeping together but take my advice you sleep with him on the first date and you have lost him. The second or third is fine but never the first. I always had to kiss a man on a first date as for me if you can't kiss eww, I love kissing and thankfully X is very good at it :) If he say he wants to try before he enters an agreement then fine but he can take you on a little shopping trip on your second date then. Try before you buy is saved for the deli counter.

Don't get so drunk you fall about, and keep an air of mystery, if he asks how you think things have gone, then tell him. Izzy told her SD that night that yes she wanted a arrangement with him and it worked out well but she didn't sleep with him that night either.

Well I hope this helps some of you

Love

Jess Bunny

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