First date jitters

So I went shopping today with one of my non SB girlfriends who cam to London for the day to see me, she has a first date with a guy next week and it got me thinking about maybe writing a blog about what you could expect on your first date, what to wear.

So by now if it's your first date you should have spoken about the financial side of things for 2 reasons. Firstly what's the point of meeting if your expectations of this relationship aren't the same and secondly it's easier to do it over email than face-to-face. You can be bolder and if you disagree with what he is offering it's easier to be polite and say "thank you but we are not on the same level" than it is to do it to his face. Imagine if you are looking for a £6k allowance and he is only looking to spend £1k or under. Also some men are just looking for occasional dates when he has company stuff on, or when he needs to get away from the wife others want like me and X have a full time relationship.

Your emails should help you figure out the ins and out s of the relationship, obviously not how may times you have sex, what positions, but how often you want to see each other, who is going to travel to who, that kind of thing.

Now if you work and it is a dinner date try to get the day of and the day after off, the day of so you can get ready and take your time and the day after not so you can stay over with him just so you can have a think about how it went, if you could see your self with him, this is a important decision and you want to let him know ASAP otherwise he may just move on, obviously you don't have to have the day after but try to get the day of the date.

Don't have a facial the day of the date, or for 3 days before it will bring out any impurities and leave you with bad skin for your date, not great!! You should have had a spray tan the night before so you just need to jump in the shower mid afternoon to get rid of the layer colour, I always leave it till the afternoon as you get a nicer colour and always have it done by someone, don't do it your self, you know it will go wrong!! Give yourself a mani and pedi, go for a nice neutral colour, obviously wash you your hair and style it once you have had your shower.

What to wear? Whilst I was shopping today I saw some lovely Black jeans around I go for DVB jeans but there are just as good ones in River Island, New Look or Topshop. The just a nice smart top, you want to be saying with your outfit, yeah I maybe going some place posh but so what I 'll dress to my style and jeans and a top can never go wrong. And the good things with black jeans is they can be mistaken for black trousers anyway so they look smart. Don't dress like you would for a job interview for a start he has to prove himself to you, not the other way round. Go for the no make up look on the face bright eyes and glossy lips. Look to make sure it applied well, no orange line if you can buy some sponges or as I use a Benefit foundation brush, you can't go wrong with one of these. Oh and lastly don't overpower him with perfume, just go light with it and put it on your pulse points.

OK so on your date, I'll go back to my experiences before X I only took enough cash for my taxi fair there and home, always meet in a bar before you go to the restaurant do you want to be stuck eating with a man who bores you to death no! Trust me it drags for hours and hours. This isn't a normal date don't offer to pay for the drinks he wants to be your SD this is what he should be doing, that is also why the bar is a good idea. Always have a friend ring you after half an hour make sure everything is ok and of course if it's not you can make a runner stating a dying dog :)

Never, Never go to bed with them on the first date, for a start no Sugar Daddy wants to think that as soon as his back is turned that his SB is going with other guys even if you have agreed you will see other people, keep him wanting more, it's classier and men will have more respect of you. Yes this relationship gets rid of the crap of waiting 5 dates and then sleeping together but take my advice you sleep with him on the first date and you have lost him. The second or third is fine but never the first. I always had to kiss a man on a first date as for me if you can't kiss eww, I love kissing and thankfully X is very good at it :) If he say he wants to try before he enters an agreement then fine but he can take you on a little shopping trip on your second date then. Try before you buy is saved for the deli counter.

Don't get so drunk you fall about, and keep an air of mystery, if he asks how you think things have gone, then tell him. Izzy told her SD that night that yes she wanted a arrangement with him and it worked out well but she didn't sleep with him that night either.

Well I hope this helps some of you

Love

Jess Bunny

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